If we stay right in the middle of our own comfort zone it gets smaller, much smaller. It can be so easy to stay inside where it’s safe, not going anywhere near the edge, but nothing grows in there. If we keep to the middle of our comfort zone all the time, something strange happens. It gets ever more comfortable and the edges of it become scary. When this happens your potential is never reached and opportunities to be your best self are missed.
For example, suppose you’re in a job that you hate and would like something completely different - perhaps to become a canine professional - but you won’t leave your comfort zone.
Even though your life has turned out nothing like you expected it to, nothing will change. You will stay unhappy in your job and never do what you really want to do, because your dream life won’t come and land in your lap by itself. Yes, you will be comfortable, but you will also probably be bored, lethargic, jaded and disappointed. Particularly in the early hours or the middle of the night when you realise how unsuited to you, your life is now.
Our comfort zone can become tiny and seemingly impenetrable – it’s a form of safety and control over the environment we live in. If we go towards the edge and even beyond it, we are losing that illusion of complete control that we have nurtured and where we feel safe. Yet we can venture towards the edge at any time. When we leave our comfort zone, anything can happen, and if you embrace the experience and expect the best outcome - it probably will.
If just the thought of doing something new leaves you cold, start small. Do something you haven’t done before, perhaps go to the cinema on your own, or out for a coffee. Maybe you could offer dog walking services at a nearby shelter, attend a workshop or volunteer at a dog training class as an assistant. Part of leaving the comfort zone is a heightened sense of self consciousness, but that will fade as you re-enter the world of exciting new experiences.
Take a moment here and consider your life on earth, perhaps do it from the lucid dreaming pod model where everything happens in your mind, where there’s no risk or real danger, just choices and the belief that everything will be just fine. What are you going to do now?
As you decide, remember this:
“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think”
- Winnie The Pooh